So in most positions sex doesn't hurt. However, there are two positions - unfortunately my bf's favorite two, and the ones he essentially has to do in order to cum - where I feel like his penis is literally punching me in the bladder, stomach, etc. It's very unpleasant, to the point of pain, and this is when I don't have to pee/haven't eaten a big dinner.
Just wondering if anyone else out there has this issue.
Which ones?
For me, girl-on-top and doggy-style enable the penis to go deepest and often hit the cervix. Not painful enough to not go on, and for me actually after a while the hurt starts to be a good hurt, but yeah some women have a big issue with that.
He needs to deal and learn to climax in another position. Either that or you gotta find the masochist inside...
anon
01-28-10 20:48
Incognito
I'm for the inner masochist route but you know I'm not the best source
anon
01-28-10 20:54
Incognito
I know you're not the best source, as you're anonymous. I can barely even cite you!
The positions are as you said a sort of modified doggy style (usually with me bending over a chair, counter, etc), or with me on my back on the bed, legs up, and him standing. Ouch.
anon
01-28-10 21:14
Incognito
If it hurts, don't do it. That's a sign that you are on your way to injuring yourself.
Maybe tell him it hurts, see if he can't do it easier (less thrusting) to get off, that way you both can have a good time....if he pulls the blue balls thing (i.e. "I *have* to hit it in *those* positions or I *can't* get off) then tell him he'd better find a new way to come that doesn't hurt you or he'll be getting off by himself from now on.
sara
01-28-10 23:23
clickity clack
Yeah, accommodate or masturbate! If he can only get it off while looking at your face there might be some problem... ahem. I don't know. It's not worth having sex if it hurts or if you don't have any fun.
I would suggest doing it in many positions. I like to have some "stand by" positions that will get me / him off if we're looking for a quickie, but it seems silly to only ever do two.
sara
01-28-10 23:24
clickity clack
while *NOT* looking at your face, I mean
sara
01-28-10 23:24
clickity clack
Not that there's anything wrong with those positions, but if they hurt you... yeah, I'm just going to stop giving "advice" now.
camabar 01-28-10 23:38
If you say so.
Awwww, so sad! Just tell him it hurts, and if he won't compromise that's his problem! Hand him a magazine and go let him finish the job. You guys should find ways (as everyone has said) that both of you enjoy. . . and he should learn to cum in those positions lol.
teh0mega
01-29-10 02:36
selfcentered guy
Yeah, sex shouldn't hurt unless you're really interested in that stuff, and let me tell you: as a dude, we can/do get off to simpler things then the aforementioned positions, he just needs to stop being a little bitch.
chucho
01-29-10 04:11
Food for thought
Maybe you being in pain is what gets him off, and he is ashamed or embarrassed to admit it.
allypoo 01-29-10 11:18
mistress alex
I've had a similar experience with a couple positions, and I've just been honest about it and no harm done.
It sounds like he's making it sound like an enormous feat to get a guy to come...yeah, definitely not. If it's a serious problem for him, consider trying some new positions -- maybe he'll find a more comfortable favorite.
anon
01-29-10 12:18
Incognito
If he has that much trouble getting off he's probably either waxing his weasel too much or in the closet.
I <3 Sex. Yeah, it's all about communication, if you don't say anything then he's gonna keep doing it. Silly.
max
01-29-10 14:53
cyber desperado
Most recent anon poster is being dumb and judgmental stereotypical jerkwad, and also so is everyone who thinks it's a given for a guy to be able to cum.
That whole notion is messed up and indicative of male objectification that is more insidious and probably more harmful to men, women and their relations than female objectification alone. Simply by virtue of being unknown and unaddressed in popular culture unlike the constant bitching and moaning about female objectification.
I can't cum if I'm not in the mood, simple as that, if I don't care to be fucking I can't pop.
Also talk to your BF and if it's unpleasant fucking then tell him to stop!
some how i get the feeling your boyfriend can cum in more than 2 positions.
a1rose 01-29-10 19:48
Adrienne
Yeah, like everyone else has said, you need to tell him it is PAINFUL for you to do those positions.
I have had this problem before myself... and being in pain AFTER for a while... is no fun either!
Talk to him. Tell him that you and he need to try something else. Maybe you can just give him a blowjob or something???
anon
01-30-10 20:28
Incognito
my man is fucking me right now and it really hurts but i do not know how to tell him to stop =/
I am ashamed we share a gender.
See, these are the situations that I don't understand. Can't you just say: "Stop. That feels uncomfortable. Can we try something else?"
If he says no, then maybe there are bigger issues than just a few awkward positions, eh?
a1rose 01-31-10 11:04
Adrienne
You speak, you know how to do that... right? That is how you tell him. or just suffer pain and agony because you're too much of a pansy to stand up for yourself...
Just tell him HE IS HURTING YOU.
Not hard at all...
just stroke his ego as you tell him. talk about how huge is dick is, and that it hurts because of it.
he'll probably love you for it.
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